We all like to play it safe, don’t we?
I know that many of us like to think that we’re risk takers. But, in modern society and in what I’ve heard described as ‘the age of consequence’, it seems we’ve become more risk averse than ever before.
In some ways the fear of making mistakes has become greater than the fear of being nothing, achieving nothing or becoming nothing. Personally, I find that a bit sad.
I’ll be the first to put my hand up and admit it that I played it too safe for many years, and in the process I know that I let far too many opportunities pass me by.
Then… eventually… after learning to leave past attitudes behind me, I learned the value of putting myself out there and making mistakes.
Here’s a few things I’ve learnt from making those mistakes.
With every mistake that we make we discover more and more about ourselves, about who we are, about our limits, about our capabilities, about what we can and cannot do. They help us be more compassionate and more tolerant with ourselves and others.
By making mistakes you will, in fact, learn valuable life lessons and you will become a happy learner. There is so much we can all learn from our mistakes, and the moment we see them as lessons rather than mistakes, we will no longer have this crazy fear of encountering them along the way.
Learning to forgive yourself.
One of the greatest lessons I’ve learnt from making mistakes is forgiveness. With every mistake that we make, we can learn how important it is to forgive both ourselves and the people around us. We start to understand that we are not perfect and that perfection doesn’t exist, and that’s ok. What matters is our intention to do our best. After all, who wants to be perfect anyway? Perfection leaves no room for improvement.
Letting go of fear.
Life isn’t about avoiding mistakes but rather embracing the idea that mistakes will come your way and be willing to learn from these mistakes. Let go of your fears and allow yourself to really experience life.
Letting go of regrets.
In my experience, playing it safe leads to more regrets about the things that we didn’t do, rather than the things we did, which leads to regrets of not making more mistakes. Personally, whenever I hesitate to do something because of the fear of making mistakes, I imagine myself at the end of my life, lying on my deathbed and thinking if I don’t act now will I regret it at the end?
Grow and evolve.
If you don’t make mistakes how can you expect to grow and evolve as a human being? How many of us get stuck because we allow the fear of making mistakes paralyse us? Yep, I’ve been there. Just think, how can we expect to learn anything new if we don’t allow ourselves to make mistakes?
Just remember that a mistake is not a bad thing and failure is never final. It all depends on your perspective. You can either treat it as the end of the road, or you can treat the word ‘fail’ as simply an acronym for…
It’s entirely up to you.
Author: Cameron McIver