Should you burn your bridges? Yes or no?

I’m sure we’ve all been there.

The shackles have come off and you’re finally walking away from that toxic employer, toxic workplace, toxic relationship or whatever it may be that’s been holding you down for so long.

The opportunity is finally here to move on to greener pastures. Feels great doesn’t it.

That sense of elation and freedom you suddenly feel, and the future has never looked brighter.

As you turned and walked out that door for the last time, how tempted were you to tell all those that have done you wrong exactly what you think of them, before flipping them the bird and scooting out in a blaze of glory?

But you didn’t. Why?

I’m guessing the reason is because everyone tells you “Don’t burn your bridges, because you just never know…”.

I get this advice and understand where they are coming from.

But…

What if burning those bridges was exactly the kick in the arse that you need?

By burning that bridge that is now behind you, you are leaving that previous situation exactly where it should remain – behind you and in the past.

By giving yourself no choice but to keep moving forward and never return to an environment that you should never have been in the first place, you’re leaving yourself with only one direction to head – forward.

I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve burned some bridges in the past.

It wasn’t always intentionally, and there were times when things weren’t going my way and I started to regret it.

But in hindsight I’ve realised that leaving a door open is no advantage when that door leads to nothing but a negative situation.

Instead, slam that sucker shut and move on.

I firmly believe that there will always be more positive opportunities out there that you’re only truly ready to take advantage of when you remove that ‘perceived’ safety net.

Here is a quote I came across a few years ago that I think sums it up.

“I burn my bridges in order to light the pathway ahead”

I like it.

So, is burning bridges a good or a bad thing? I’d love to hear your thoughts by commenting below or sending me a message.

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